Human Behaviour as a whole is such an interesting and a fascinating subject to study.Being a very good observant,i find it really engaging.Infact it never ceases to amaze me.These are some of my thoughts on the subtleties and nuances of human behaviour,based on my observations and experiences.
Female species are extremely territorial.They gaurd their territory fiercely.They are strongly binded by their habits and they would not take kindly to someone invading their space and questioning their way of functioning, no matter how logical it may seem.Hence,Space is quintessential for the female species.
The onus is on the Male species,to make space available for the both the parties(ie Mother and Wife)concerned.The guy after tying the nuptial knot must master the art of balancing,and here in lies his greatest test.There are many ways to attain this, each being subjective in its own way.
If possible the guy should live independently and not at his parent's place.Its not as if, this is an only option,but if circumstances permit,its worth a try.This does not suggest washing off your parent's responsibilties and living in an insular environment. But,its a rather practical approach.The guy would be giving himself a great opportunity for a relationship to succeed.Its not an easy proposition but its certainly worth a try.In this way,He would be in a better position to give care and love to both his mother and his wife in an equitable and a just manner.
A son's love for his mother his permanent.At the same time,the wife also has her own aspirations and desires,which must be given equal weightage.The key here is an open and a logical mind.The guy should create avenues for the two parties concerned to co exist in a healthy and a peaceful manner.Still the task for the guy is extremely tough.
My second observation might not go down well with many of my female friends.But its just my observation,i might be wrong,and there are exceptions always.
Never ask a female colleague for her opinion on another female colleague,regarding practically anything.If my observation stands correct,very few would give the right answers.They have an uncanny knack of noticing strange things which otherwise a guy would not even dream of.They can completely disbalance the mental faculty of a guy.They may have our best interests but they may not give their best views.Its an arduous task to fathom their real motive.Guys take opinions,but make a decision based solely on your logical thinking.
Human Behaviour is such a vast field.My observations are just a drop in the ocean.Its just my way of looking at things.Comments whether good or bad are most welcome.
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Women are an arrogant species, full of terrible potential, but we also have a great capacity for love, friendship, generosity, kindness, faith hope &……many more unexplored….
A man reserves his true & deepest feelings not for the species of women in whose company he finds himself electrified & enkindled, but for that one, in whose company he may feel tenderly drowsy....am i wrong ???...
Nice observations & nicer thoughts...keep them flowing....
neel, i might be harsh for u as always i sound! but i am just not happy with anything u have written..trust me, its nothing to disgrace u or disrespect u or nothing like i just wanna make u down on ur creativity!
i just don't know how to write ,but certainly i know whats good and whats not!!
first of all..just vast topic that it can be drop in ocean..now u know that drop has none value in ocean..why u would write that?????
second..i am not at all impressed with topic..and such a vast topic and 2 observation? and that even mom n wife? relationship flows with blossom..u dont need to think this much with these both divine relations!! it just goes..if u think that much for balance..man..seriously u cant balance!!!! both relations dont need anything but mutual understanding...thats all..
and second..ur perception regarding asking opinion from female for a female..its always justified!!!!!!
becos the same reason, u would never dream of something and they have thought! u will get ur hidden brain out!! same gender opinions are always welcome becos they know better as same gender! which u would never know as male! i am not good in writing but i guess i convey the msg!!!
thanks and sorry if i sound realy cruel! but neways..u know me so no worries!
Neel... it's a nice try. But you know, your observations are nothing new. In fact, they are the universal truths. Human behaviour is a very deep and rather complicated thing to discuss.... And you are right about it being 'Amazing'...
Your first observation about female species (as you put it)is right, but that behaviour is developed in them since childhood and with so many experiences... gets fixed gradually. Neel, that is their defense mechanism to protect themselves from physically stronger and differently wired species called men. Hope you understand what I mean.
Another observation about a particular relationship, which is called a 'cursed relationship'... 'Cause every where it's the same, irrespective of place, case, education, social status, financial position... And believe me it's not as easy as you think it to be.
I agree, guy's task is a Hercules one... But till the mentality of whole society doesn't change... it won't be possible.
In short, you being a male will not be able to understand a woman's feelings, insecurities, frustrations, helplessness.... This all in very wide and general sense han...!!!
Oh I guess, with all these... I have affirmed your thought about asking an opinion from a female...!!! :-)
Neel, think you have hit the nail on the head with alot of what you have written. Men can never think like women or vice versa. Should the guy live alone -with his wife -in the name of space and giving the new found relationship its best shot at prospering or get tied down by the fact that he should be looking after his family. The fact that a guy looks or wants to look after his family-is a wonderful thing -it shows commitment but does not necessitate his living with them-he can very well care for them living in his home -just as he has /wants to look after his parents -the wife wants to and ideally would like to have a relationship with her inlaws where they are like another set of parents...idealisms -wouldnt the world be a very different place if these actually came true!¬! -ok I am going off on a tangent here...getting back to the point of never getting a another womens opinion on another problems -hilarious thought-but I agree the male species does have a very focused -almost single minded technique of analysing things and should stick to it -as with a womens perspective they do tend to be exposed to this whole world of unexplored nooks and cranies where they are sure to get knocked off balance and lose their way! Hehe good luck with decipering from there onwards hehe -loved it Neel -keep up the fab work -and please chk mine out when u have chance -have added plenty of new extracts to my blogs on :
http://ommarah.blogspot.com/
Happy reading and writing
Ommara
Ummmm - I guess most of your observations are correct....but mayb the suppositions vary.....
I mean its common knowledge that Men are fro Mars & Women from Venus. Hence the same situation, or the same object is viewed differently by men & women......this is in reference to your "never ask a female colleague abt another.....they comment on such things which a guy has not noticed".
And on Space....yes it is important....but why a woman only - a guy too demands space - isnt it???
Individuality ans space has become important in the knd of lifestyles we lead today....its certainly not woman centric.....and you're true in saying that love does not diminish while creating space....but at the same time space is important, since lack of it might just smother each ones individuality.
I agree with Nandini about the giving space to each other... But for that too both of them should be open minded enough to accept it... Otherwise mostly people gets possessive about each other and their time....
Anyways, we all learn by experience, but only fortunate people can implement their understanding in behaviout...
By the way Neel.... honestly, I had to look up for the meaning of some words you have used in your comments... Your language seems to be quiet better then that of mine... :-)
Thanks again for your valuable comments...
oh! hmmm... thenwhat do you have to say about
http://eye-spik.blogspot.com/2008/06/harmony.html
Good morning:)
and thanks 4 ur valuable comments neel:) Loking forward to more bloggy interaction with you :D
Thanks Neel:) Same here!
But you';d have to dig up my bloggie for that :P
I look fwd to a great blogging friendship too:)
Id b following ur blog :)
and oh! here goes another one... thats one of my favourites:)
http://eye-spik.blogspot.com/2008/02/life-n-d-power-of-affection.html
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